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Writer's pictureLynn Matthews

When Is It Time to Say Goodbye to Your Best Buddy?


Benji surrounded by soft things
Benji surrounded by softness

A Lifetime of Love

For 14 years, my Benji, a spirited miniature schnauzer, has been my constant companion. He’s been more than just a dog; he’s been my confidant, protector, and unwavering source of joy. As he’s grown older, I’ve found myself grappling with the hardest question a pet parent can face: When is it time to say goodbye to your best buddy?


A Life Full of Memories

Benji has always had a knack for making an impression. There was the time we went to Florida, and I nervously unleashed him at the dog park, fearing bigger dogs might intimidate him. My worries were misplaced. Benji confidently walked up to a group of dogs, sniffed his introductions, and to my amazement, the other dogs sat down while he stood tall, the clear alpha of the pack.


At home, Benji has always had his quirks. He’s a connoisseur of comfort, insisting on rolling on the softest thing around—whether it’s a freshly laundered blanket or a cozy spot on the couch. He’s our self-appointed sentinel, faithfully sitting by the door to alert us when family members are arriving. And his favorite pastime? Chasing a stuffed squirrel, watching TV on the couch, and napping on the bed, wrapped in his favorite blanket.


The Challenges of Growing Old

A few years ago, Benji faced a bout of old dog vestibular syndrome, a condition that caused him to lose his balance and seem disoriented. Miraculously, he recovered, and for a while, it was as if time had rewound. But now, at 14, age is catching up. He’s blind and deaf, pacing often, and slowing down. Last night, when he fell off the bed, my heart sank. I thought it might be the end, but this morning, like the resilient spirit he is, Benji got up, went outside, and carried on.


Yet, I see the signs. His steps are uncertain. Tasks that were once effortless now take longer. I worry about his safety, afraid he might stumble into the pool or hurt himself when I’m not looking.


When Is It Time?

Deciding when to say goodbye to a beloved pet is an agonizing choice. As pet parents, we want to hold onto them forever, but we also want to honor their dignity and quality of life. I find myself asking: Is he in pain? Is he still finding joy in his days? Does he know how deeply he is loved?


Veterinarians often suggest considering your pet’s daily happiness. Are they eating well? Moving comfortably? Still, enjoying the things that once made them happy? But even with guidelines, the decision remains intensely personal.


A Reflection on Love and Letting Go

Benji’s journey has been one of love, loyalty, and unforgettable moments. He’s taught me so much about courage and companionship, about finding joy in the small things, and about being present for those we love. When the time comes to say goodbye, I hope I can give him the same unconditional love and comfort he’s given me every day of his life.


The Gift of Goodbye

Saying goodbye is the hardest gift we give our pets—a final act of love to spare them from pain or fear. As I reflect on Benji’s life, I’m reminded that the measure of our bond isn’t in the years we have but in the love we share.


For now, I’ll cherish every wag of his tail, every nap on his soft blanket, and every quiet moment we spend together. And when the time comes, I’ll hold him close, just as he’s always been by my side.

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